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12 values of wedding coordinator

What I Put My Heart Into for Your Wedding: 12 Values in Practice


When couples approach me, I don’t just think in terms of a list of services – but a set of values I bring into my work. I believe a wedding is more than just a day – it’s an atmosphere, a sense of safety, and a memory for a lifetime.


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Calm in the Storm


All weddings have one thing in common: emotions. These are not always easy to understand or manage. It’s invaluable to have someone who can calmly help big emotions pass through without causing harm and help everyone avoid unnecessary unpleasantness. A coordinator has the time to sense, foresee, and respond to situations before they escalate.


At one wedding, old family disputes started to surface. That’s when I switched on my “crisis management” – slowing things down, calming, finding words and distraction. In a short while, everyone was laughing again. Bringing calm is something I love, not only at work but in all areas of my life.

Empathy


The best advice for coordinators and close helpers: be quiet. Silence is not only about not talking; it’s about listening. Don’t think about what clever or witty thing you’ll say next. Just sit, absorb what’s truly being said, and only respond when needed.


I love when people feel safe and open – it’s not unusual that clients share much more with me than expected. That’s why I know how important it is to listen not only to words, but to what’s between the lines.

Discipline and Resilience


Part of being a coordinator is not to burden others with your own issues – unless they affect your work, there’s no need to bring them up. If something does affect your work, always have a backup arranged.


One of my favorite comments from a bride was: “Baru, if the world ended, you’d still serve the tea!” That’s when I realized how suited I am to this job. The responsibility for a smooth event brings out my inner strength and the ability to manage my own mood – because your big day only comes once.


Pure Joy


There is only one first impression. If you try too hard to impress, your true skills won’t shine. Relax; find your own way to let your personality show.


I’m most moved when other professionals put their trust in me – recently, a fellow coordinator asked me to coordinate her own wedding. That’s the greatest feedback that the calm and joy I bring are real and immediately visible.


Discretion


Speaking about others in their absence is always wrong. I can’t discuss brides or guests with anyone, not even with the closest suppliers – not even to defend myself. That’s an illusion.


Not every guest knows what is happening behind the scenes. I’m here so that you never need to find out about anything that could ruin your day…

Positive Energy


Has a problem cropped up? Accept it; don’t try to cover it up with toxic positivity. If you can find something funny about it – great! If not, what can you do to solve the problem and help everyone refocus?


I believe that a smile, perspective, and lightness are infectious. Every team and every guest needs the feeling of joy – that’s my favorite part of the job.

Trust


What you say must be true. In the smallest details, truth can be distinguished from lies. Plus, honesty is usually not so bad if we make decisions sincerely and with the best intentions.


My greatest reward is when couples say, “We know everything will be fine with you.” I never betray that trust.

Pure Approach


Every wedding, even a small one, is a new story – and it’s the most important day of the year. There may be more than one wedding in a week, but each deserves the same attention.

Enthusiasm must be genuine because it’s contagious.


I don’t work by templates. Every wedding, even a small one, is a new story – I create it with an open heart.

Inspiration


Everyone is creative. As children, we had vivid imaginations, and as adults we can revive them. Imagine yourself in your clients’ shoes and ask: “What would I need in this situation?”


I love coming up with ideas that are not just pretty, but truly reflect the couple’s personality and story.

Resilience


After a short winter break, you look forward to coordinating wedding days. At the first wedding, it rains; at the second, it’s cold; the third comes too soon after the second… If it only drains you and gives nothing back, maybe this isn’t for you. That’s okay. You probably know the feeling when people ask, “How do you keep going?” That’s exactly what you should feel as a coordinator.


Long days, early mornings, endless preparations – nothing discourages me. I have plenty of energy because this work genuinely fulfills me.

Honesty


I’d rather share an unpopular opinion if I know it will help in the long run.


A bride once had a maid of honor who criticized all her ideas. With each new suggestion rejected, the bride grew quieter and less radiant. A gentle reminder, “This is your wedding,” brought her joy and excitement back. Today, I’m still friends with that bride.


Genuine Connection


I want weddings to be about real emotions – ordinary moments are often the strongest. I create space for those moments to happen.

Let this be your mantra.


This is what a wedding day made with love looks like to me – these are the 12 values of a wedding coordinator, and I look forward to being part of your special day ♥️

 
 
 

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